In Final Fantasy XIV, trying to enjoy this game is a wise decision. Therefore, browse the tips below and make sure you have enough Ffxiv gil, you will find that things will become so simple.
1. Don't be afraid to change your main, scary as it may be.
I always have been a BLM main, who switched to Red Mage and I'm now discovering that I'm really good at tanking. Many people say that you end playing just one class, but always remember that you can try new things.
2. Try having a tank, a healer and each of a kind of dps at max level.
The experience of playing all the roles and their subdivisions will help you improve your whole game experience, and also help you be more empathetic to other players.
3. Don't feel pressured to have the best gear possible if you're not doing savage content.
If you have a i350 geared character you can do all of the game content + Byakko, for example. Missing a tome cap and not being in the mood to grind for tomes is totally normal. You don't have to be great if you are not doing content that demands you to be great. Good will suffice, ok? Don't put too much pressure on yourself.
4. Sometimes it's easier to take the blame, even if you're not guilty.
I know it makes you feel like crap, but if the other person is arrogant and rude, it might just do the trick to completing your current activity. That's not saying you should tolerate abuse, abysmal gameplay or trolling, it's more like saying "sure, my bad" and forgetting about it when someone's being overzealous.
5. As the new Cinderella film said, "Have courage, and be kind".
Seriously, follow this line and everything in FFXIV will improve, and I mean everything. We are all still people. If you don't feel like completing something personal that you started, like a relic for example, it's fine. You are allowed to feel bored, or not wanting that anymore.
6. Try to do some vanilla, day-to-day, RP every once in a while.
It helps with immersion and you'll make great friends. Expand your character, and don't be intimidated by people, some of them, even the popular ones, might be just as shy as you are.
7. Don't be prejudiced against an entire race.
I've seen people getting kicked or laughed at simply by being a male miqo'te or a minimum sized lalafell. We all have jokes about the stereotypes (I'm a gay catboy myself), but please remember that each avatar is a person. If you're not racist IRL, why would you be in Eorzea?
At last, use whatever you want, wherever you want as glamour. Skimpy outfits, full armor, just naked, whatever. It's your character, be as true to yourself as you can.